I have studied many paths seeking sexual wellness and wisdom, and here I share with you my work as a Sacred Intimate. A Sacred Intimate is a teacher who takes you step by step into feeling more comfort, connection and pleasure in your body. S/he guides you back to a state of recognizing, experiencing and enjoying your body sensations. We have been told to disregard and distrust the information percolating up from the gut, genitals, heart, and skin. Instead, we are told to trust only our head or intellect.

This is an unbalanced and dangerous way to live, as the mind is quick to play many tricks. If we are separated from the body wisdom that comes from the neck down, we feel hurried all the time, confused and unable to enjoy pleasure. As humans we have moved from eons of living slowly in the body to a hyper-fast life of living from the neck up. A Sacred inmate is trained to reintegrate our body-mind-spirit as we were designed to live by nature.

A Sacred Intimate is trained to help a client re-sense his/her body information that is constantly available at every moment. By getting a student to listen to the simple and profound messages coming from the body, s/he can make decisions–whether in bed sexually, or out of bed in life–that are authentic, safe, empowering and pleasurable.

When it comes to sexuality, most of us do not understand how to create a container of safety. A Sacred Intimate uses different body-based techniques such as conscious breath, intention, touch, expression of desire, individual choice, and permission to teach safe and passionate play. Always coming back to what you ‘notice’ or ‘observe’ in your body, a client develops a sense of ‘being present’ in the moment, instead of being anxious about the future or depressed about the past.

Sensing and being able to verbalize what is going on in one’s own body is monumental for most people and expands one’s potential to be sexually at ease and feel pleasure. Good sex is simply learning to feel more sensation in the body and interacting with others in a way that feels clear and full of choice.

How do we make embodiment sacred? By practicing the components of giving and receiving, expressing one’s desires, and responding to other’s requests with a clear yes or no make possible deep levels of extended sensual pleasure and arousal. A Sacred Intimate’s job is to remind a client s/he has the right to change their mind and renegotiate at any moment. We enter a delicious realms of deep surrender and ecstasy when touch exchanges are based on consent and permission.

There is a physiological change that happens when we come from a deep sense of embodiment–especially if it is sacred embodiment–we can truly celebrate our commonality and communion with our partner and all life. We feel an elated sense of well-being, a timeless and treasured joy to be alive. Our hearts open. We become refreshed and enlightened.

For more, check out: The Sacred Intimate